You've a problem, and so you share it with your friends or family.
They disagree with how you feel about it, which is fair because everyone is entitled to their opinion.
You stand up for yourself. You say that you disagree with their opinion. You plan to stick to your guns because you know deep down that you're right.
Everyone then starts to call you stubborn because you can't seem to let it go or move on by their own standards.
Suddenly, that's the only topic in mind.
"[Insert your name] is so stubborn!"
Suddenly, the problem that has bothered you so much so much so you shared it with your friends and family has disappeared.
Nobody gives a fuck about how you feel.
Because you've been gaslighted into being stubborn.
Ever experienced this scenario?
I have. Plenty of times.
If people around prefer to insult you rather than empathize with you, it's time to stop talking to them or listening to them.