Whenever I speak to dudes about their problems and mental health issues, these words would almost always come out of their mouths:
"I have never shared this with anybody."
"This is the first time I am talking about it."
"My brother doesn't even know."
"My family has no clue."
"Not even my girlfriend knows."
And the most sad of all, "There was only one person I spoke to about this, but now he's gone."
The thing is though, I feel dudes all around say these with a tinge of pride, almost as if they're trying to emit a sense of enigma in their life.
By doing that, it implies we are resilient. We don't need help to get by our own.
It's a typical standard when it comes to masculinity.
I think it's time for guys to break away from this idea and just start speaking up for themselves or at least say something.
The bigger enigma is how we treat speaking about problems as a rare occurence in life when honestly, it can be normal.
I hope you find the courage to do so one day.